A true friend for life
Not at all necessary. There are times when you met someone in kindergarten and carried a wonderful relationship throughout your life. But it happens that a person ends up next to you at some stage of life, and then you stop needing each other.
Let's say you talked a lot with a classmate at university. We exchanged lectures, went to parties and concerts together, and discussed common events. You were in the same context. But then you graduated, moved to different cities, and the context became different. For some time, you communicated according to old memory, but the points of contact became less and less. But in the end, the friendship faded away. But did that make her any less real? You spent several years together - probably excellent ones. Good things don't stop being good just because they end.
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What true friendship looks like in Russian literature
"A Tale of Friendship and Unfriendship"
Here we will talk about the story, which from the very beginning received the status of an “unwanted child” from the Strugatsky brothers. As a result, they decided to publish the work, since nothing else was accepted for publication at that time. Subsequently, the parable became beloved by many readers.
If you are lucky enough to open the pages of the story, then after reading it you can see an example of courageously overcoming your own fears in order to help a friend. The main character named Andrey must spend the New Year holidays alone, in bed with a cold and sore throat. The family left to celebrate, but the grandfather was left in charge at home, preferring to sleep near the TV.
The main character decides to call his friend Gene to come visit him. The young man promised to visit Andrei at nine o’clock in the evening, but in the end he did not come. At the same time, a signal for help sounded from the Speedola speaker.
Further, the plot in the book unfolded in such a way that danger awaited the heroes at every corner. Andrey begins to doubt whether he should go, but then remembers that Gena once protected him in difficult times. As a result, he decides to go underground. No one is following him; in fact, the hero is left alone, so it’s very easy to turn off the road in the other direction. However, in fact, Andrei is braver than he thinks.
The young man overcomes various obstacles step by step to save his best friend; by the way, there are many of them on his way. At the same time, there is always the opportunity to turn back without any obstacles. Andrey always chooses the path of the “brave”, so he manages to reach the end. The gloomy images around seemed to insist that Gena had left him alone on purpose.
When Andrei woke up on his bed, he saw his best friend standing at the door. Gena felt guilty, but as an excuse he decided to give the hero the most expensive thing he owns - an album with stamps.
This little story personifies an example of true friendship. Despite the fact that the number of pages in the book is small, it contains a great and deep meaning. After reading, everyone should take away the moral: you should never give up if your close friend needs help.
Friendship between Stolz and Oblomov
Ilya Ilyich Oblomov and Andrei Ivanovich Stolts are completely different in nature. The heroes look opposite, but if you take a closer look, it becomes clear that we are talking about different sides of the same coin. Just children who are literally in love with this world, grew up in different conditions.
From childhood, little Andrei had complete freedom of action, he had the opportunity to freely explore the world and prepare for the fact that in the future life would be filled with surprises. As for Ilya, he grew up as a child “beloved” by his parents, so he lacked any desire to act and move forward. The friendship of the heroes was built on the basis of mutual empathy and mutual assistance.
As an adult, Stolz tried in every possible way to get Oblomov to take action. The latter, in turn, on the contrary, believes that life should have passed quietly and calmly. In the end, the victory went to Oblomov, but Andrei did not become happy, adhering to these principles.
It must be said that both characters needed to reveal their deep potential and move to a new level of harmony. In an ideal scenario, the author needed to mold the characters into one whole, but this example of friendship ultimately received a sad end.
For happiness, everyone lacked their own:
- Stolz needed sensuality, sincere love and the establishment of peace in the heart;
- Oblomov had to be endowed with a thirst for life and active action.
Important! After reading books, you need to draw conclusions about the actions of the main characters. Perhaps, with the help of fictional stories, it will be possible to solve problems in relationships with people in real life.
"Fathers and Sons"
The history of friendship can be traced in Turgenev’s novel “Fathers and Sons.” This line runs through all the works. We are talking about the friendship of Arkady Kirsanov and Evgeny Bazarov. The latter was a little older and more experienced than his friend, and had stable and well-formed views on life, which may seem harsh to the average reader.
If we talk about Arkady Kirsanov, he is the opposite personality. The hero strived for peace and the creation of home comfort, but all this does not coincide with Bazarov’s life position.
an old friend is better than two new ones
Sometimes yes and sometimes no. There is logic in this statement: since you have been communicating for many years, then most likely you know each other well and have been through a lot. But there are two points here.
Firstly, old friendships often continue out of inertia precisely because of the belief that old comrades are real, and new ones are just passable. But remember how childhood bonds are formed. Most likely, you lived somewhere nearby, or went to the same school, or your parents communicated. In general, circumstances brought you together, not spiritual kinship. Adult connections are formed more consciously. Therefore, if the horse of old friendship has died, it’s time to get off it.
Secondly, if you are lucky enough to maintain childhood friendships, this does not mean that there is no room for new contacts in your life. Why rank people by when they appeared? There are much more rational criteria, for example, how comfortable and fun you are together.
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